Appendix: A Quick Reference for Clarifying Key Terms

TermHow Many Christian Parents Hear ItWhat Your Child (and Experts) Mean
Gay / Lesbian / BisexualA person actively engaged in same-sex behaviors or sexual activity.A person who experiences consistent attraction toward individuals of the same (gay, lesbian) or both genders (bisexual).
SexualityPrimarily refers to sexual acts, behaviors, or lifestyle choices.A clinical term describing the full range of human attractions, emotions, identity, intimacy, and romantic connections - not necessarily related to sexual activity.
AttractionA desire or temptation that, if acted upon inappropriately, can lead to sinful behavior.A natural, involuntary emotional or romantic inclination toward certain people - distinct from behavior or actions.
IdentityA lifestyle choice, behavior, or something chosen and embraced voluntarily.An internal sense of self-awareness, authenticity, and emotional truth about one’s own experiences and feelings.
AffirmationApproval of or support for behaviors you may morally disagree with.Validating and recognizing a person's emotional experiences and identity as legitimate, important, and real, regardless of whether one agrees morally with behaviors.
Coming OutPublicly embracing sinful behavior or rejecting Christian beliefs. Announcing your sin.Openly sharing one's authentic internal experience or identity with trusted people, seeking honesty and deeper relationships.
OrientationA choice or something influenced by upbringing or experiences.A stable, enduring aspect of a person's emotional and romantic experiences, primarily influenced by biological factors.